Ilaria Calussi, BACP
25 years in practice
Ilaria Calussi is a counsellor with 25 years of experience. Her sessions focus on how relationships and wider systems shape everyday difficulties.
License and registration
- BACP
- 25320 · expires September 2026
- Years in practice
- 25
- Languages
- English, Italian
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About Ilaria
Ilaria Calussi is a counsellor with 25 years of experience. She offers calm, straightforward support for people dealing with relationship strain, parenting pressures, trauma, ADHD and related concerns. Her sessions focus on how relationships and wider systems shape everyday difficulties.
She listens for patterns between people and helps identify small, practical changes that can ease tension. Conversations are plain and grounded, aimed at helping people feel steadier and clearer about their next steps.
Background and approach
Over a long career she has worked across charities and the NHS, including roles in school-based services, social care and the National Autism Unit. She also runs a independent practice and lectures in psychology and counselling at the Open University. That background informs a broad, practical outlook rather than a single rigid method.
Ilaria draws on systemic thinking alongside attachment-based and client-centred ideas. She combines these with cognitive behavioural techniques and emotionally focused work when it helps. The emphasis is on collaboration and adapting the approach to each person’s needs and life circumstances.
She speaks English and Italian and is used to working with people from diverse backgrounds. Sessions are offered in several online formats to fit different routines and locations. The aim in every meeting is to make things easier to understand and manage, so people can take steady steps towards change.
Focus areas and approaches
Everything Ilaria lists on their public professional profile, in their own terms.
- Relationship issues
- Family conflicts
- Trauma and abuse
- Parenting issues
- ADHD
- Abandonment
- Adoption and foster care
- Attachment issues
- Autism and Asperger Syndrome
- Avoidant personality
- Blended family issues
- Caregiver issues and stress
- Chronic pain, illness, and disability
- Codependency
- Communication problems
- Control issues
- Dissociation
- Divorce and separation
- Domestic violence
- Emptiness
- Family of origin issues
- Family problems
- Fatherhood issues
- Forgiveness
- Guilt and shame
- Immigration issues
- Isolation / loneliness
- Jealousy
- Life purpose
- Midlife crisis
- Mood disorders
- Multicultural concerns
- Obsessions, compulsions, and OCD
- Panic disorder and panic attacks
- Polyamory / non-monogamous relationships
- Postpartum depression
- Post-traumatic stress
- Pregnancy and childbirth
- Prejudice and discrimination
- Self-harm
- Self-love
- Sexual assault and abuse
- Sexuality
- Social anxiety and phobia
- Somatization
- Women's issues
- Workplace issues
- Young adult issues
Approaches Ilaria names
- Systemic Therapy
- Attachment-Based Therapy
- Client-Centered Therapy
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
- Gottman Method
- Narrative Therapy
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Somatic Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Therapy
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Online support
How therapeutic approaches translate to online work
Systemic work looks at relationships and routines that shape a person’s day to day life. Online sessions allow the counsellor to notice how interactions and roles show up in conversation and to help people test small changes between meetings.Attachment-based therapy focuses on how early connections influence how people relate now. In sessions the counsellor explores emotional responses and helps build ways of relating that feel safer and more predictable.
Client-centred therapy centres on the person in front of the counsellor. The approach emphasises listening, empathy and helping people find their own solutions rather than being told what to do.
Choosing the right approach is part of the work. The counsellor will talk with each person about goals and preferences and will adapt methods as needed. This collaborative planning helps ensure sessions match what matters to the client.
Online therapy offers flexibility and practical choices. Video calls replicate face to face interaction for deeper conversation. Phone sessions work well when bandwidth is limited or a shorter check-in is needed. Live chat and text-based messaging suit quick reflections, journalling between sessions, or people who prefer writing rather than speaking. These options make it easier to fit therapy around work, family and daily life.
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Questions people ask
What issues does this counsellor help with?
She supports people facing relationship difficulties, family stress, trauma and abuse, parenting challenges and ADHD-related concerns. Other focus areas include attachment, adoption and foster care, neurodiversity and communication problems.
What is her therapeutic style like?
Her style is practical and collaborative. She uses systemic thinking and draws on attachment-based and client-centred ideas to look at patterns between people and how those patterns affect everyday life.
How much experience does she have?
She has 25 years of clinical and service experience working across charities and the NHS, plus independent practice and teaching in psychology and counselling.
What credentials does she hold and where is she based?
She is registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy, listed as BACP, and is based in the United Kingdom.
Can I work with her in a language other than English?
Sessions are offered in English and Italian for clients who prefer to use either language.
Which session formats are available online?
She offers video calls, phone sessions, live chat and text-based messaging to give people choice in how they connect.
How much do sessions cost?
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